Your Baby Isn’t Lazy: Why Telling This to Moms with a Baby Struggling to Breastfeed is Harmful

Breastfeeding can be one of the most beautiful bonding experiences between a mother and her baby, but it’s not without challenges. Unfortunately, some of these challenges are made worse by outdated or dismissive advice. One of the most harmful myths circulating is the idea that a baby struggling to breastfeed is simply "lazy."

Let’s clear this up: babies are never lazy when it comes to feeding. Why would they be? Eating is their most basic instinct and essential for survival! So, when a baby struggles at the breast, it’s not laziness—it’s a signal that something isn’t right.

Understanding the Real Issues

If your baby is having a hard time breastfeeding, it’s essential to explore the root cause. Here are some common reasons:

• Poor Latch: The way your baby attaches to the breast may need adjustment for effective feeding.

• Poor Positioning: Finding the right position can make all the difference in comfort and milk transfer.

• Tight Fascia or Torticollis: These issues can restrict movement and make feeding uncomfortable for your baby.

• Tongue Tie: A common condition where the tissue under the tongue is too tight, limiting movement and making it hard to nurse.

These are just a few examples, but the takeaway is clear: if your baby is struggling, it’s not their fault. They’re communicating that they need help.

Why This Myth is Harmful

When moms are told their baby is "lazy," it shifts the focus away from finding a solution and can leave them feeling unsupported or inadequate. Worse, it can lead some to give up breastfeeding altogether, thinking they or their baby are incapable.

This is why professional lactation support is so important. Lactation consultants are trained to identify and address these challenges, offering tailored solutions to help both mom and baby succeed.

Setting Yourself Up for Success

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Breastfeeding is a journey, and it’s okay to seek help along the way. Remember: your baby isn’t lazy—they’re doing their best, just like you are. Together, with the right support, you can navigate challenges and create a nurturing breastfeeding experience. ❤️